Before diving into any play, it’s super important to talk about and agree on using the Green/Yellow/Red safe word system. This way, everyone knows how to communicate clearly during a scene. People might have different takes or preferences, so it’s key to make sure you’re all on the same page.

You Violated Their Consent or Receiving a Consent Violation Report:
When someone approaches you about a consent violation, it’s important to remember that their willingness to engage in dialogue reflects a level of trust and hope in your ability to address the issue responsibly.

UNDERSTANDING CONSENT: MORE THAN JUST A DEFINITION

Consent is a cornerstone of healthy relationships and interactions, particularly within communities that engage in kink or other intimate activities. While the literal definition of consent is "permission for something that has been agreed upon," real-life application is far more complex. This complexity stems from the multitude of factors influencing our lives—emotions, past traumas, power dynamics, societal pressures, and more. This blog post explores the nuances of consent, what it looks like in practice, different types of consent, and how to handle consent violations with respect and accountability.

Negotiation in personal relationships, especially regarding consent and boundaries, can vary widely depending on individual preferences and communication styles. For some, especially those who might be more straightforward or mildly autistic, a clear and direct approach to negotiation is preferred. This method focuses on expressing needs and desires openly without the nuances of flirtation or ambiguity. It emphasizes clarity and transparency, ensuring that both parties fully understand each other's expectations and boundaries.