Understanding Safe Words and Emergency Systems

Before diving into any play, it’s super important to talk about and agree on using the Green/Yellow/Red safe word system. This way, everyone knows how to communicate clearly during a scene. People might have different takes or preferences, so it’s key to make sure you’re all on the same page.

Safe Words and What They Mean:

- Blue: Go harder, more intensity

- Green: Keep going as is

- Yellow: Pause or slow down, check in

- Red: Stop immediately, emergency

Breaking It Down:

- Blue: This means the person wants more intensity, like being hit, choked, spanked, or grabbed harder. But remember, the other person needs to agree too.

- Green/Super Green: This is a check-in system. If someone says “Green?”, the response should be “Super Green” to confirm everything’s good. "Green" can also mean the current intensity is just right.

- Yellow: This means pause. Someone might feel lost, confused, or concerned. When “Yellow” is called, everyone stops and checks in to:

- Figure out what’s wrong.

- See how it’s affecting things.

- Decide if it can be fixed right away.

- Set up ways to prevent it from happening again.

Play can start again only when everyone agrees the issue is sorted and consents to continue.

- Red: This is a full stop and emergency signal. It means someone is scared or something serious happened. When “Red” is called, play stops immediately, and the person is put in a safe position with all restraints removed. Aftercare starts based on their needs. Before starting aftercare, check to make sure it’s still appropriate, as it might have changed due to the emergency.

After Using "Red":

1. Talk about what went wrong and its impact.

2. Assess any potential damage.

3. Set up ways to prevent it in the future.

Play won’t resume, and everyone takes a 24-hour cooldown to process what happened. During this time, no one should start another scene or act as a dungeon master or safety observer. This helps ensure any issues from the “Red” call don’t affect other play sessions.

By understanding and agreeing on these safe words, everyone can feel more secure and confident, making for a safer and more enjoyable experience.