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Conducting an Introductory Scene: A Step-by-Step Guide

When starting with someone new, it’s important to keep the scene simple and practical. This approach allows for flexibility and ensures that it doesn’t take up too much time. The goal is to discuss, practice, and execute basic actions to get a feel for each other’s communication style, pain tolerance, and overall perspective.

Here's how a basic introductory impact play session might look:

Phase I: Getting Started

  1. Choosing Implements: The bottom picks out five implements from my bag or theirs. If it’s something I’m not familiar with, like a dragon tail or whip, I’ll politely decline to use it.

  2. Setting Timers: We set timers for 5 minutes and 20 minutes to manage the warm-up and the main scene.

  3. Warm-Up: This includes rubbing, patting, light strikes, taps, and shaking the play area to warm up the body and get the blood flowing.

  4. Impact Levels: We start with single impacts using each implement at low (10%), medium (30%), and hard (50%) levels. The bottom can confirm these levels or adjust them based on their perception.

Phase II: Calibration and Communication

  1. Finding the Right Intensity: The goal here is to calibrate the strikes and understand live communication. We aim for a 50% impact using a simple color system:

    • Blue: The strike is too light, needs to be harder.

    • Green: The strike is perfect.

    • Yellow: The strike is too hard, needs to be dialed back.

  2. Consistency: We aim for three green responses in a row to show a consistent trend and understanding.

Phase III: Body Strikes and Closing the Scene

  1. Intro to Body Strikes: The bottom experiences low (10%), medium (30%), and hard (50%) strikes using slaps, punches, elbows, knees, and kicks to low-risk areas like the thighs or butt.

  2. Reward: The bottom can choose two implements or body strikes to receive extra spicy (70%) strikes. They can split these between two implements or strikes if they prefer.

Aftercare and Debrief

  1. Aftercare: Follow the previously negotiated aftercare routine.

  2. Debrief: Discuss three things we both enjoyed and three areas for improvement.

  3. Suggestions: Offer any suggestions to make future scenes better.

  4. Follow-Up: Set timers for 12-hour and 24-hour check-ins to remind each person to follow up and provide post-scene support.

Feel free to borrow any of these ideas if they’re helpful. This setup is a blend of great information from the internet, tips from mentors, and trial and error.

The more effort we put into understanding our practices, the easier it becomes to negotiate safe and enjoyable scenes with good people.

Source: Fetlife.com user @Desiderata